Steps to Bettering Yourself-Inspiration Post

Steps to Bettering Yourself

An Inspirational Post

Growing up, I was very intimidated by people and insecure. To make up for, or to hide this, I started acting unbothered by everything. I wanted people to think I didn't care, even though I did. I put myself down a lot too. I did this partly to make people laugh, and partly to make it seem that I didn't care that I felt ugly, or stupid, or like I didn't fit in. I tried to seem "edgy". I wore a lot of black, dark colors, a lot of baggy clothes, a lot of makeup that I couldn't even face my family without. Rather than do homework or go outside with friends, I laid in bed and ate chips, crackers, anything. In the middle of the night, I would take pieces of white bread and eat them plain. I hated taking pictures, and after a shower, I would avoid looking into the mirror. I was afraid to see my body.

So many young people live like this. So many young girls and boys feel like all they have going for them is being funny, making fun of themselves for being chubby and sad. They only reason I am not like that now is that I moved 20 hours from my home and school and made a decision to change and I committed to it. 

My first step-Fix Your Diet

I noticed at my new school the girls brought salads to school for lunch and didn't even finish them a lot of the time. This made my cold pizza and Cheetos embarrassing to eat in front of them. I took a look at my eating habits and realized just how unhealthy they were. I was overweight and was very unhealthy. When I changed the way I ate I started to feel better mentally and physically. My body began changing and I was finally comfortable wearing things I had never worn before.

My second step- Find Your Style

Pinterest was my best friend during this time. I made a Pinterest board labeled "styles" (Link to this board). There I created my style. If you look at it you'll notice a lot of skirts and dresses, all very girly. This is my personal style, and may not be yours. This is just the style I wanted to adapt to fit the person I wanted to be. My baggy, dark clothes turned to plenty of skirts and dresses.

My third step- Be Friends With EVERYONE

I always wanted people to like me, everyone does, but I was shy and socially awkward around people my age. It's very confusing to love attention (lol) and love being in activities with people, but being afraid of social interactions at the same time. I decided I would FORCE myself to love people and hopefully, they would love me too. I wanted to be "The nice girl". that was my goal. No matter who it was, how popular or well known they were, I would be the nicest person they had ever met, and always outgoing. So eventually that's how people came to know me.

My fourth step- Join Activities That Give You Purpose

I never knew what my purpose was. I came home from school, laid in bed, went back to school the next day. After coming to my new school I started joining everything I could to make myself a leader and to learn the life skills I needed. These activities included class council, student ambassadors, academy of finance, Rotary, and many others. I held leadership positions in almost all of them. By the end of Junior year, I was in 9 extra-curricular activities.

My fifth step- Love Who You Are

I changed myself a lot, for the better. People act like it's a bad thing to change, or that youre trying to be someone else. To change isn't wrong. Be the best you that you can be, and if you change, that is okay. You're not supposed to stay the same your whole life. if you don't change you also don't improve.

My steps will be different from yours and that is fine. You have to grow your own way. These are just the steps I took to better myself.

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